Toxic chemicals are hazardous to your health – and so are toxic friends. They make everyday life difficult, how do you navigate a special event like a wedding? Let’s look at a few personality types, and strategize.
The Guilt Machine: She makes you feel bad whenever you see her. You’re not spending enough time listening to her talk about her eternally doomed life.
The Plan: tell her honestly you have a lot of obligations and need to be around positive energy. Ask if she can understand your limited availability and see things more “glass half full” or you’ll need to step back for a while.
Envious & Evil: He “doesn’t like your fiancé,” (= jealous of your committed relationship) so drops references to your wild nights out in Boystown in his presence.
The plan: Again, honesty (see a theme?) Sit him down and spell it out. That behavior is not cute, and not worthy of a good friend.
Just plain clueless: She wore an off white dress and a hat with a birdcage veil to your engagement party, and harassed you about all your vendor choices.
The plan: Delegate this one. There’s probably a no-nonsense mutual friend that can artfully explain the transgressions, get her to apologize and keep her distance until after the wedding.
In the end it’s being honest with the people in our lives who are causing us pain that makes the biggest difference in our quality of life. Your friend may not fit neatly into one of these descriptions, but nevertheless, get out there, be honest and make your wedding non-toxic!
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