A tweet caught my eye today – admiring someone’s “Day After Wedding Shoot.” Is this a thing? Disturbing, if you ask me. The wedding industry puts a lot of pressure on couples. The “musts” have expanded through the years. We’ve hit a point where what’s expected has ballooned- and at a time when people’s ability to finance these more and more extravagant add-ons is more and more tenuous. This last one just put me over the edge a little. What do you think?
A modern wedding centerpiece from our website was featured in a blog today about translating your favorite clothing designer’s “look” into a look for an event. Our wedding centerpiece was put on an inspiration board for a Kate Spade-styled event. How delightful! Thanks to Dana from Big City Farm Girl, and to Lindsay from Pinklet and C for including us in this fun concept.
Hi Everyone, I’m Dana – fashion lover, DIY enthusiast, blogger over at Big City Farm Girl, and good friend of Lindsey’s! I’m super excited to be posting over here at Pinklet and C. I wanted to make my post both fun and inspirational and came up with the idea of translating one of my favorite designers into an awesome party. When a designer creates a collection it needs to be cohesive, inspirational, eye catching, and make everyone go “wow.” Well don’t you want the same reaction when throwing a dinner party, birthday celebration, or bridal shower? Incorporating a certain designer’s aesthetic is a way to make your party both fun and fashionable. One of my favorite designers out there right now is Kate Spade. I’m in love with her bold, gorgeous, bright pieces and jewel tone accessories and of course classic polka dot prints. So why not take this look and plan a party around in?
It’s your day, Bride, no question about it. But take time to think about your friends and their circumstances. Chances are you know all too well how expensive it can get being a bridesmaid, or even just being a friend-of-the-bride, what with showers, bachelorettes, wedding gifts…it adds up. Here are some “dos and don’ts” for keeping your friends feelings and finances in mind.
DON’T
Keep Up With The Jolies. Yes, we all read the magazines of celebrity excesses and glamorous getaways, but celebrate in a way all your gals can afford. Does your entire gaggle of girls need to go to Puerto Rico for a long bachelorette weekend? Does your shower need to be at the Ritz? Keep your expectations within everyone’s budget.
Have a Surprise Party. No one likes expensive surprises. When your maids find out on wedding day that they owe $150 plus tip for hair and make-up (that is “optional,” but everyone else is doing it), you can’t expect they’ll be feeling celebratory.
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DO
Be choosy (in a good way). Pay attention when choosing your wedding party. Did your cousin just get laid off? Does your best friend have college loans up the wazoo? If you think someone might feel less than honored – ask her in a neutral way that allows a graceful “out.”
Adopt an attitude of gratitude! Thank everyone. This seems like a no-brainer, but tell everyone how much you appreciate the love and support. The more your friends hear this during the lead up to your wedding, the better the experience will be for everyone!
There you have it. Keep your friendships together, and everyone’s wallet (relatively) intact.
