B.B. King, Buddy Guy, Mick Jagger, and the Leader of the Free World. That would be some reception!
Who would be in your fantasy wedding band? Would you invite this music industry veteran to showcase his presidential pipes?
Thinking it over? Check out our earlier post about inviting the Obamas to your wedding. You never know who might show up. Just remember, order extra food for the Secret Service. They eat a lot.
Is it weird to feel the love strongest after Valentine’s Day? Not for a floral design company. We’re authentic romance enthusiasts.
It’s a rush running all over town delivering happiness in solid form to people. And on Valentine’s Day it’s overwhelming – too fast, too furious and all goes by in a blink. So the day after “the day,” it finally comes washing back over you quite how much of an effect you had on people’s day, romances and relationships in that 18 hours of sheer madness. And it feels really good. 
I often comment about how lucky we are to work around beauty and love all day long. And that’s meant literally – the beauty of flowers, and the glow of engaged couples is intoxicating. It’s hard not to be happy helping brides to be pick out ways to make their weddings beautiful. But there’s something so pure about delivering Valentine’s flowers to a girl who doesn’t think they are for her, or watching a couple married 30 years turn to teenagers over a bouquet of red roses. Secret admirers, mothers to sons, there’s just something special about that Valentine love. So pardon us if we’re still reveling in it. We’re suckers for romance, it kind of comes with the territory. We’d better be, or we couldn’t be in this wacky, crazy business, or at least we wouldn’t be very good at it.
Authenticity makes the difference whether you’re running for president, or if you’re running all over town with a van full of Valentine’s flowers. We are who we are, and that makes our business what it is, and our events (particularly weddings) what they are. Us? Happy and grateful. Our business? On a terrific roll. Our weddings? Beautiful, and authentically romantic.
Oh Whitney. How sad I was yesterday watching a block of Whitney Houston videos on VH1 (Videos on Vh1? I know, right)? I realized, standing in my kitchen holding a wet dishcloth and a half dried mug, that I had grown up to her music. I had bopped my head to “How Will I Know,” and cried my eyes out to “Where do Broken Hearts Go.” But even if you thought it was cheesy, the most important message in any of Whitney’s songs was the one she shared in “The Greatest Love of All.” You’ve got to love yourself, first and foremost. Which is sometimes easier said than done.
I was washing dishes at the behest of Marla Ciley, AKA FlyLady, who has an online community that shares tips and a whole system for cleaning, organizing and clearing clutter out of your house. Now I don’t know about you, but I find it even harder to feel good about myself when my house is a wreck. And when it’s a wreck, it can be so overwhelming, I feel even worse! Wow, talk about a self perpetuating cycle. FlyLady’s pep talk emails and essays pull you through all that if you take it all to heart. Again, it’s kind of like Whitney- you have to overlook a little cheese here and there to really appreciate the message. And so I decided to excerpt Marla/FlyLady’s essay about loving yourself here, in honor of Whitney.
Dear Friends,
This weekend we have been mourning the loss of Whitney Houston. As I have spent all day listening to her music one song says so much to me; The Greatest Love of All! We will always love her voice and how we feel when we hear her sing. There is a line in this song that touches my heart; Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all. Finally Loving Yourself is this gift!
How do you learn to love yourself? What is Love anyway? To us it may be something that we have never had. Several years ago when I was in an abusive relationship; all I wanted was to feel loved. It didn’t matter if I was loved; I just wanted to feel like I was. What I finally came to realize was I was never going to feel this way by his actions. I needed to find other ways to feel loved.
I started to meditate and in order to stay focused on my breathing I would repeat with each breath in “I LOVE” and the breath out “MYSELF”! Even though I didn’t believe it yet; I still did it! I would meditate 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening. This became a way for me to slow my brain down; after a while the words that I said to myself began to manifest themselves into actions.
When something would not feel right; I would ask myself if doing that was loving myself. Now I have taken those simple words and turned them into my mission statement for my life. To find joy in everything I do.
This is one of the greatest gifts I ever gave myself. It keeps me from perpetuating the abuse by showing me that I am loved. Love is an action word. It is the result of some little deed that makes us feel good or special. I want you to take a few minutes right now and write down a list of things that you can do for yourself to put into action the word love.
Take that seriously folks – take a minute out of your day and jot down 5 things you can do to love yourself. Because, to quote another fabulous role model of mine, RuPaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?” Amen to that, Ru. Amen to that.
Be well, and love well.
-Dinah
