A Reality TV Bride Tells All: why I said “yes.”

When my then fiancé, and I announced that our wedding was going to be taped for a TLC reality show, people were more than a little surprised.  Everyone was convinced we were adding to an already stressful time.  In fact, saying “yes” to TLC was one of our best decisions. Let me tell you why.

The last weeks before the wedding were a whirlwind.  There was one oasis: shooting the show. Stephen and I spent two hours talking and “being cute” together.  We walked down a street near the beach hand in hand, trailed by a camera, giggling. We sat on a beautiful, sunny,  patio, reading to each other. We talked about how we fell in love.  That afternoon was a brief shelter from the crazy wedding planning storm: we got to reconnect, and remember that under the tulle and the tablecloths, was our unique love story.

The bride and groom, showcasing our use of succulents in a bridal bouquet and boutonniere
incidentally, showcasing our use of succulents in a bridal bouquet and boutonniere

I treasure those two hours, every moment.  The lights, the cameras, and the questions that reminded me why I had said “yes.”

Note – Credit where credit is due: I got, hands down, the most amazing hair and make-up team in Southern California.  Dana and her team from Design Visage in Orange County made me feel like a movie star. Thanks ladies!

Working For The Weekend…On Something Other than your Wedding

Everybody’s working for the weekend. Really? Everybody? Brides tend to focus on their weddings all week – and definitely on the weekends.  It’s prime time for visiting locations, trying on dresses and tasting cakes. But every so often, over the year or so of planning, it’s important to have a wedding-free weekend.  Why? The rewards are many.  These types of breaks…

Non wedding-related goofing around. Good for the relationshp!
– Keep your feet on the ground – the world does not revolve around your wedding, and not being Princess Focus-Puller for a few days keeps up your bridezilla antibodies.
– Keep your relationship intact.  Remember that guy who gave you the shiny ring? He wants his girlfriend back. Your fiancee self is wrapped up in layers of tulle and fondant. Remind him you are who you are (no Ke$ha karaoke please).
– Keep on keeping on. You’ve got miles to go between now and “I do.” In order to stay sane and focused you have to give yourself a break.
There you have it – 3 ways taking a break from wedding planning does right by you.  Now get out there – you worked for this weekend. Make the most of it.

Bottoms Up! A primer on enjoying a cocktail or two at your wedding without making a – um – bottom of yourself.

You’ve come back down the aisle, made your grand entrance and nailed the first dance.  Your beautiful reception is underway, time to relax and enjoy the celebration! Find that cocktail waiter, right?! Wrong.

Stay within your limits and enjoy your guests and your memories!

It’s key to realize that even though the year’s worth of stress has lifted, and you’re finally able to enjoy this big party you’ve so painstakingly planned, that downing three of the signature cocktails in the first half hour is a really bad idea.  Your celebrating is in the spotlight – you are the star attraction and everyone will be looking at you, talking to you (and about you) all night long.  Do you want to be remembered for the rest of your days as the girl who was sloshed at her wedding?  Keep the booze to a level you can control.  You may not have eaten much that day – so anything you drink will go straight to your head.  Last but not least,  put your glass down when your photographs are being taken.  Nothing makes you look like you drank your way through the big night than having a glass of champagne in your hand on every page of the wedding album.  Your banquet captain will be happy to put a bottle of the best stuff in your hotel suite, or your getaway car.  And you know it’s much more fun to drink champagne with your man than with Aunt Edna.  Cheers!