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The Cool Factor – Make Sure Your Wedding’s Not Lukewarm

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Image by Sean Choe via Flickr

OMG you guys! Wouldn’t it be cool if…

Oh the immortal “Wouldn’t It Be Cool If.” Sometimes the ideas are old as the hills, and some are genuinely unique and fun.  Then there is one last category: I call it “teetering.”  These are the ideas that given a slight nudge with a bendy straw would  fall into the chasm of “over my dead body.” But there’s a voice in my ear: done right, it could be utterly breathtaking/incredible/unforgettable.

In the end, it is not the planner who decides.  If the bride and groom love the idea, it grows wings.  So, bride and groom.  How do you decide if your grand vision  will be a rousing success, like this wedding entrance routine that went viral, warming hearts across the globe, or squirm inducing either now, or in ten years when you look back on this, the biggest moment of your life as a couple?

Things to think through / Questions to ask yourself:

1.  Check the health of your motive.  Is the amazing idea designed with the aim of becoming a viral video sensation? Some media pundits are starting to find this trend really tiresome, but that’s neither here nor there. Back to you. Is You-Tube fame-seeking really the right frame of mind for beginning your marriage? Don’t turn your rite of passage into a flash mob.  Let it be meaningful.

2.  Are you really and truly equally committed to the grand entrance via trapeze?  Or is one partner Barnum and Bailey bound and the other donning the sequins to be agreeable?  Talk to each others’ family and friends to get honest answers. You need to be a team.

3. Will your ‘Big Idea’ upset anyone in either of your families? Yes – it’s your day and all that, but weddings are intense moments as far as family dynamics go – and you are laying the groundwork for relationships that are yours to have and to hold, for better and for worse.  Let’s keep them for better by not ticking off your Mother In Law (on film no less) on day one.

4.  Try to fast forward 5, 10, 15 years.  Are you going to regret it? Weddings, at their essence, are timeless.  Fashion can date them (<cough> Princess Di) and so can gimmicky touches.  Like having a computer for an officiant.  When you reminisce about your wedding through the years, let it be “wasn’t it wonderful?” not “what were we thinking?”

5.  Keep in mind what everyone’s there for and KISS.  That stands for Keep It Simple, Silly! Everyone is coming to your wedding to share an important moment in your lives.  The “wow” factor really isn’t that crucial. If you relax, and enjoy each other, everyone present will follow suit. No bells, whistles or computer generated officiants required

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My Little Etiquette Shop: Should a Bride play Bob Barker if the Price Isn’t Right?

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Money. Whether you’re on team “Root of All Evils” or  more in the “Can’t Buy Love but Sure is Nice” camp, it is a source of worry for brides, grooms, and their families. This is a really good question – read on.
Q:  I went shopping with my sister for her wedding dress. When paying, she asked if it was the “best price” and if they could add any free accessories or alterations to “sweeten the deal.”  Then she did the same with the caterer.  She was politely declined, but it all made me quite uncomfortable. Is she leaving people whose help she needs with a bad taste in their mouths?

Wedding Budget Stress

A:  In theory, I get her thinking. So much in today’s marketplace is “on sale” or dicounted, so why not try and negotiate? You are correct though, that some vendors see that as a bit nervvy. Don’t worry about the rapport, as a Hospitality Sage once said, “until somebody throws something, any and all bride behavior comes with the territory.”
There’s a simple way to avoid having to bring Monte Hall on appointments, and to stay in your financial comfort zone: Be upfront with vendors about your budget. If they know the parameters, they can adjust their thinking accordingly and remove the need for any “wheeling and dealing.” They can also suggest  packages or specials they have. If you’re working with the A-TEAM of wedding professionals here in the Coachella Valley, all of us know how to take what you’ve got and turn it into “beautiful.”
With wedding businesses, keep this in mind about pricing. What we want is to provide a stable source of a reliable, high-quality service, in our case, beautiful flowers and flawless event design/coordination. When a bride signs with us, we’ve made a commitment to stay where we are, and do our best work for another year. If we discounted too deeply, we’d be unable to keep the promises we make. And keeping our word is important – especially when it means so much to our brides. We work with all types of budgets – and all our weddings, (and parties, corporate events, showers, bar/bat mitzvahs…) are beautiful.

bride and groom in gazebo
Have a great weekend!
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My Little Etiquette Shop: Putting Place Card Putterers…in their Place

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Seating Chart
Image by zzilch via Flickr

Avoiding the rogue place card shuffler in a pretty way? Really! Check out this idea from Emmaline Bride – a blog I follow on Networked Blogs – they handles this quite brilliantly with wonderful pics of their offerings.  Had to share. (BTW Networked Blogs is a terrific way to have all your blog fun delivered straight to your Facebook page. Check it out!)

Emmeline Brides is a fun source of pretty DIY inspiration and a sort of Mini-Etsy: curated handmade wedding related items.  Etsy can be super overwhelming so it’s great to have someone pick out the good stuff.  On to Seating Chart Wisdom!

Wedding Seating Chart: Why You Need One

Posted July 25, 2011 by EmmalineBride | ♥ Leave a Comment!

Let’s face it: guests like to have a seat, and not just to have a place to sit down for dinner. Since each guest invited is special to you, he or she should have a seat set aside just for them. Going to a wedding with free-for-all seating makes guests anxious. It reminds me of grade school when teachers have you pick a seat in the cafeteria, so everyone rushes to grab a seat by his or her best friend before the good seats are taken. 😉 Guests will be forced to tackle the same task if you eliminate a valuable wedding day resource: the wedding seating chart.

A wedding seating chart is similar to escort cards but requires less work on your behalf. All you need to do is finalize where each guest will sit based on your floor plan. Then, the seating chart is printed onto one page to be framed or placed onto an easel for easy viewing by guests. This eliminates the task of hand-writing or printing each guest’s name (and his or her guest) onto a card, folding it, and placing onto a table in alphabetical order. Instead, this easy peasy alternative keeps things simple and gives guests an easy-to-spot seating chart to take their seats quickly. We love these custom seating charts by The Seating Chart Boutique, featured artisan in The Marketplace! Just order your seating chart and frame! Here are a few of our favorite designs…

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Thanks bloggers @ Emmaline!

These seating charts are available through Emmaline Bride’s Marketplace. Pick one, take your seat, and get planning!

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