We posted this over yonder on Facebook, but inquiring minds really do want to know, and we are way proud of our technical ability to insert this poll, so we’re asking here too:
OK fans – a question for you. We blog about a lot of topics. Etiquette, advice, event design, flowers…what topics are interesting to you? What do you want to hear more about? And what are we missing? Please chime in!
No, we’re not talking about father/daughter, mother/son, and wedding-party-conga-line. So if we aren’t talking traditional reception dances that follow the first one, where are we going with this? Well, where does your life go after your wedding? Onward – except now as a pair. So instead of seeing your moment in the ballroom spotlight as simply the first dance of the evening, see it for what it really is: the first dance of your married lives. And if there’s a first, that means there are supposed to be more. You can dance anywhere – and you should. Even the grocery store, should you happen to hear an elevator version of your wedding song. But any song will do. Just don’t save it for other weddings. Be that couple everybody yearns to be – the ones who create romance out of thin air. It doesn’t matter if no one else joins in, like they say – dance like nobody’s watching. Pretty much the polar opposite of that first time, but more romantic without Uncle Sheldon and his giant Nikon.
So stay connected by having a second dance. And a third. And definitely jump on the occasional conga line.
Oh the immortal “Wouldn’t It Be Cool If.” Sometimes the ideas are old as the hills, and some are genuinely unique and fun. Then there is one last category: I call it “teetering.” These are the ideas that given a slight nudge with a bendy straw would fall into the chasm of “over my dead body.” But there’s a voice in my ear: done right, it could be utterly breathtaking/incredible/unforgettable.
In the end, it is not the planner who decides. If the bride and groom love the idea, it grows wings. So, bride and groom. How do you decide if your grand vision will be a rousing success, like this wedding entrance routine that went viral, warming hearts across the globe, or squirm inducing either now, or in ten years when you look back on this, the biggest moment of your life as a couple?
Things to think through / Questions to ask yourself:
1. Check the health of your motive. Is the amazing idea designed with the aim of becoming a viral video sensation? Some media pundits are starting to find this trend really tiresome, but that’s neither here nor there. Back to you. Is You-Tube fame-seeking really the right frame of mind for beginning your marriage? Don’t turn your rite of passage into a flash mob. Let it be meaningful.
2. Are you really and truly equally committed to the grand entrance via trapeze? Or is one partner Barnum and Bailey bound and the other donning the sequins to be agreeable? Talk to each others’ family and friends to get honest answers. You need to be a team.
3. Will your ‘Big Idea’ upset anyone in either of your families? Yes – it’s your day and all that, but weddings are intense moments as far as family dynamics go – and you are laying the groundwork for relationships that are yours to have and to hold, for better and for worse. Let’s keep them for better by not ticking off your Mother In Law (on film no less) on day one.
4. Try to fast forward 5, 10, 15 years. Are you going to regret it? Weddings, at their essence, are timeless. Fashion can date them (<cough> Princess Di) and so can gimmicky touches. Like having a computer for an officiant. When you reminisce about your wedding through the years, let it be “wasn’t it wonderful?” not “what were we thinking?”
5. Keep in mind what everyone’s there for and KISS. That stands for Keep It Simple, Silly! Everyone is coming to your wedding to share an important moment in your lives. The “wow” factor really isn’t that crucial. If you relax, and enjoy each other, everyone present will follow suit. No bells, whistles or computer generated officiants required
