The Cool Factor – Make Sure Your Wedding’s Not Lukewarm

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OMG you guys! Wouldn’t it be cool if…

Oh the immortal “Wouldn’t It Be Cool If.” Sometimes the ideas are old as the hills, and some are genuinely unique and fun.  Then there is one last category: I call it “teetering.”  These are the ideas that given a slight nudge with a bendy straw would  fall into the chasm of “over my dead body.” But there’s a voice in my ear: done right, it could be utterly breathtaking/incredible/unforgettable.

In the end, it is not the planner who decides.  If the bride and groom love the idea, it grows wings.  So, bride and groom.  How do you decide if your grand vision  will be a rousing success, like this wedding entrance routine that went viral, warming hearts across the globe, or squirm inducing either now, or in ten years when you look back on this, the biggest moment of your life as a couple?

Things to think through / Questions to ask yourself:

1.  Check the health of your motive.  Is the amazing idea designed with the aim of becoming a viral video sensation? Some media pundits are starting to find this trend really tiresome, but that’s neither here nor there. Back to you. Is You-Tube fame-seeking really the right frame of mind for beginning your marriage? Don’t turn your rite of passage into a flash mob.  Let it be meaningful.

2.  Are you really and truly equally committed to the grand entrance via trapeze?  Or is one partner Barnum and Bailey bound and the other donning the sequins to be agreeable?  Talk to each others’ family and friends to get honest answers. You need to be a team.

3. Will your ‘Big Idea’ upset anyone in either of your families? Yes – it’s your day and all that, but weddings are intense moments as far as family dynamics go – and you are laying the groundwork for relationships that are yours to have and to hold, for better and for worse.  Let’s keep them for better by not ticking off your Mother In Law (on film no less) on day one.

4.  Try to fast forward 5, 10, 15 years.  Are you going to regret it? Weddings, at their essence, are timeless.  Fashion can date them (<cough> Princess Di) and so can gimmicky touches.  Like having a computer for an officiant.  When you reminisce about your wedding through the years, let it be “wasn’t it wonderful?” not “what were we thinking?”

5.  Keep in mind what everyone’s there for and KISS.  That stands for Keep It Simple, Silly! Everyone is coming to your wedding to share an important moment in your lives.  The “wow” factor really isn’t that crucial. If you relax, and enjoy each other, everyone present will follow suit. No bells, whistles or computer generated officiants required

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My Little…Shovel Shop? If a client needs one…

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Groundbreaking shovels - painted gold to catch the eye

My Little Flower Shop‘s event work doesn’t begin and end at flowers.  Clients need it? It gets handled.  Well, actually, we decided not to paint the handles on these shovels we designed for the recent groundbreaking at the CPV Sentinel Power Plant in Desert Hot Springs. Gold blades and cheerful blue bows did the trick.  Here they are before arrival, and in action, looking fabulous.

Officials line up Thursday at the ground-breaking of the CPV Sentinel power plant in Desert Hot Springs (from left): Alex Urquhart, CEO of GE Energy Financial Services; Riverside County Supervisors John J. Benoit and Marion Ashley; Douglas Egan, CEO of Competitive Power Ventures; Assemblyman V. Manuel Pérez, D-Coachella; Gary Lambert, CPV president; Assemblyman Brian Nestande, R-Palm Desert; Desert Hot Springs Mayor Yvonne Parks; Bo Buchynsky, senior vice president of Diamond Generating Corp.; and John Murphy, CPV senior vice president.
Officials line up Thursday at the ground-breaking of the CPV Sentinel power plant in Desert Hot Springs (from left): Alex Urquhart, CEO of GE Energy Financial Services; Riverside County Supervisors John J. Benoit and Marion Ashley; Douglas Egan, CEO of Competitive Power Ventures; Assemblyman V. Manuel Pérez, D-Coachella; Gary Lambert, CPV president; Assemblyman Brian Nestande, R-Palm Desert; Desert Hot Springs Mayor Yvonne Parks; Bo Buchynsky, senior vice president of Diamond Generating Corp.; and John Murphy, CPV senior vice president. / K Kaufmann The Desert Sun

We also did the lovely party, here are a few shots before the celebrating began.

An elegant buffet accented by a vintage "cheesecake" poster in the client's "Bikini" theme. Classy with a kick.
The simplicity of a silver Chiavari chair and black linen - very elegant and refreshing out of their native ballroom habitat
The simplicity of a silver Chiavari chair and black linen - very elegant and refreshing out of their native ballroom habitat

It all added up to one happy client.

Greg,

I just wanted to thank you for a terrific job you did with regard to our event.  The bikini bar and event area took on a new presence thanks to your efforts, and we are grateful to you for that.  I lost track of you at the celebration itself, but hope you were able to enjoy some of the food and drink.

I also hope that you got a chance to see some of the Channel 3 coverage of the groundbreaking itself.  The gold shovels sparkled beautifully in the sun and were a great accent to that event.

Thanks for all!

Yanina Daigle

Competitive Power Ventures, Inc.

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