The popularity of viral videos of proposals, weddings and first dances can worry 95% of men trying to make a romantic gesture. How are you supposed to ‘top’ flash mob proposals or elaborate anniversary messages timed to music? Guess what? Real life romance is what women want.
Barack Obama: “… “it’s [the] tension between familiarity and mystery that makes for something strong, because, even as you build a life of … mutual support, you retain some sense of surprise or wonder about the other person.” Sure, theatrical type stuff is charming. But even better is the kind of experience that isn’t completely removed from normal life. Because something more down to earth is something that’s more likely to happen between special occasions, and romance woven into the every day existence of a relationship is the most meaningful of all. So whether it’s a homemade anniversary dinner, or a proposal (with no audience) at a location that’s special to you, if the romance is of a less showy variety, we’re still going to be happy. And when you throw in an unplanned detour to that spot, or whip up a weeknight meal, we’re going to be even happier. What’s better than a guy creating a special romantic night? Knowing that our love created a special romantic guy.
I have to go to a wedding this weekend – as a guest. At one point in my career in events I moaned “Why can’t I ever just go and be a guest?” but these days I actually feel kind of uneasy at a wedding without a timeline in my hands, or a headset in my ear. I’m the ultimate accessory at this shindig – a groomsman’s wife. So while my husband stands up looking handsome in his suit and tie, the poor bride, bless her heart, will have an event professional perched on a folding chair analyzing her celebration. It has nothing to do with her – she’s a perfectly lovely girl. It’s a hazard of the profession that parties and weddings I attend personally (and didn’t have a hand in planning) become case studies. Sometimes I come away with brilliant, unique ideas. Other times, things are woefully underplanned, and it’s painful to watch. Even then, I end up making notes and learning a thing or two.
Picture me here – this weekend.
So I guess in the end, when you work in the event industry, anytime you go to an event, guess what? It’s work. So to paraphrase seven little men, “Hi ho, hi ho, it’s off to the wedding I go!”
I’ll be sure to share lessons learned and/or brilliant ideas.
Keep planning this week! (Photo credit: petyr.rahl)
So you spent the weekend running around from wedding vendor to wedding vendor (perhaps you even worked in a visit to a certain Palm Springs florist?)
You got sooooo much done, you deserve a break, right? Well, you could but you’d lose a valuable commodity: your weekend momentum. You’re full of information! You know who to call next! Don’t take a nap and lose your place in the exciting story that is your big day. Just a quick tip.