The popularity of viral videos of proposals, weddings and first dances can worry 95% of men trying to make a romantic gesture. How are you supposed to ‘top’ flash mob proposals or elaborate anniversary messages timed to music? Guess what? Real life romance is what women want.
So go forth! Bring romance into the everyday!
Be well, and love well.
-Dinah
I have to go to a wedding this weekend – as a guest. At one point in my career in events I moaned “Why can’t I ever just go and be a guest?” but these days I actually feel kind of uneasy at a wedding without a timeline in my hands, or a headset in my ear. I’m the ultimate accessory at this shindig – a groomsman’s wife. So while my husband stands up looking handsome in his suit and tie, the poor bride, bless her heart, will have an event professional perched on a folding chair analyzing her celebration. It has nothing to do with her – she’s a perfectly lovely girl. It’s a hazard of the profession that parties and weddings I attend personally (and didn’t have a hand in planning) become case studies. Sometimes I come away with brilliant, unique ideas. Other times, things are woefully underplanned, and it’s painful to watch. Even then, I end up making notes and learning a thing or two.
So I guess in the end, when you work in the event industry, anytime you go to an event, guess what? It’s work. So to paraphrase seven little men, “Hi ho, hi ho, it’s off to the wedding I go!”
I’ll be sure to share lessons learned and/or brilliant ideas.
Be well, and love well
-Dinah
Lumiere is my hero. Yep- the singing candlestick. Lumiere’s big number is “Be Our Guest,” an ode to making guests comfortable.
A wedding is, at heart, for the guests– a fact lost on some brides who want to fulfill their own desires, and assume everyone will go with the flow. The truth is, if the only two people having fun are the bride and groom, that’s a sad state of affairs. You want people to be happy for you, and have a great time! Step number one is keeping them happy, so keep your guests in mind when you are planning. Two easy things to consider:
Where
The number one way to irritate your wedding guests is by getting married at an inconvenient location. Now, a destination wedding is one thing. But if you’re staying local, and asking 250 people to join you at the Chapel of Saint Wilhemina of Small Parking Lots in the Middle of Nowhere National Park, you’re going to have a few cranky customers. A good litmus test: if it’s going to take most guests longer to drive to your ceremony site than to experience the ceremony itself, you might want to look for a different location.
When
Of course your wedding date has to work for you and your family. But perhaps your Maid of Honor is Jewish – if the date you’re considering falls on Passover, you may want to call and check if that’s a problem. Also look out for other big family events – if your Aunt and Uncle’s 50th Wedding Anniversary falls close to your date, it’s polite to check if they have something planned. Last, look out for other weddings, friends or family. There are enough dates to go around, no need to step on cousin MacKenzie’s special day.
If you consider these things at the outset, you’ll have a happier crowd in the end. That Lumiere, he really sheds light on how to treat guests! If your tea-pot starts talking, listen up.
Be well, and love well.
Dinah