My Little Relationships Shop: Friends Help Friends Find Love

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As a newly engaged person, people will want help finding love’s golden ticket. You’ll need tips for those who ask, “How did you do it? How do I find someone?”  Here are our best 5.  Your most stubborn friends may actually listen for once – that’s the power of the ring.

1.  Get out of the house.  Your true love will not magically fall into your apartment. Get out in the world, and do things you enjoy. Check out “Meetup.Com.” In Palm Springs alone there are groups for bowling, swing dancing, and a “booze-n’books” club.  People watching at a café works too (provided you eventually engage with some of your watchees). Just say no to TiVo.

2.  Be open to all avenues. It’s a numbers game, so don’t write off the online sites because they’re non-traditional.  Ask around – chances are you know married couples who’ve met on e-harmony, and/or Jdate. Don’t want to pay? Check out the 100% free

3.  Don’t be so picky.  Relax on the “musts.” Does your new house have every single thing you dreamed of? No. Same goes for people. At worst, it’s an hour at Starbucks with a weirdo, with the silver lining of a great story to tell. At best, it’s lifelong happiness. Do you really want to leave that on the table because of your laundry list of requirements?

4. Say “yes.”  Make a practice of letting other people’s ideas work for you. Fix me up? Yes! Come camping for the weekend? Yes!  Learn to play the drums? Yes! The adage is “everything happens for a reason,” but really it starts by you choosing to let it happen. Do you want to fall in love? Yes!

5.  The Universal Three Foot Rule.  Let the universe know that you want to bring someone into your life.  Put it out there as a positive thought.  Then, tell everyone within three feet of you.  Everybody knows somebody – and somebody knows who’s holding your golden ticket.

Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend, and luck in love!

My Little Marital Bliss Shop: The Second Dance. And the Third, and the Fourth…..

Conga line
Join the conga line!

No, we’re not talking about father/daughter, mother/son, and wedding-party-conga-line.  So if we aren’t talking traditional reception dances that follow the first one, where are we going with this? Well, where does your life go after your wedding? Onward – except now as a pair.  So instead of seeing your moment in the ballroom spotlight as simply the first dance of the evening, see it for what it really is: the first dance of your married lives.  And if there’s a first, that means there are supposed to be more. You can dance anywhere – and you should.  Even the grocery store, should you happen to hear an elevator version of your wedding song.  But any song will do. Just don’t save it for other weddings.  Be that couple everybody yearns to be – the ones who create romance out of thin air.  It doesn’t matter if no one else joins in, like they say – dance like nobody’s watching.  Pretty much the polar opposite of that first time, but more romantic without Uncle Sheldon and his giant Nikon.

So stay connected by having a second dance. And a third. And definitely jump on the occasional conga line.


The Cinderella Moment…no really THE Cinderella moment!

Thanks to our pal Christy who posted this on Greg’s Facebook wall – with the interesting title “The King of Brides.” It’s good to be the King. Princess. Whatever.