Should She Invite Her Ex to The Wedding? My Little Advice Shop

Q:  Should I invite my ex-boyfriend to my wedding?  I made a point of staying friends with all my exes through the years precisely so we could all “get along” at an event like this. 

 

advice for the bride and groom
advice for the bride and groom (Photo credit: @heylovedc)

 

A: Here’s the thing.  When it comes to post break-up relationships, there are two kinds of people:the Keep In Touchers  and the Never See Againers.  You are quite clearly a Keep In Toucher.  So, the question becomes.  Where does your man fall?  I have a feeling he’s on Team Never See Again, otherwise you would not be writing, you’d be putting together the perfect “singles table” of all your exes.  As a longtime player on Tean NSA, I advise that if that’s the case to let this one drop. Your man will be a hundred times happier on the big day, and that will show.  After you get settled in to married life, have a barbeque for the old crowd.  Lower the stakes over the steaks, get it?

 

Be well, and love well.

 

Dinah

 

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Hyelp! Hyelp! Why Yelp Is Frustrating Small Businesses.

HYelp! HYelp! My Little Flower Shop is the latest in a long line of wedding businesses to find that Yelp! seems to have a really unfair, arbitrary non-algorithm that pulls down positive reviews left by real customers, leaving subjective, often unfair reviews to sink your online reputation.

Do you use Yelp, the crowd-sourced review website? Unfortunately, some vocal (and prolific) customers have taken the tool that’s meant to share information on local businesses with the community, and begun to wield it as a weapon against companies that have displeased them in any way whatsoever.  Say, by telling them we are closed on a holiday weekend, and can’t take their flower order.

The My Little Flower Shop team shows off bouquets & centerpieces at a Bridal Show
The My Little Flower Shop team shows off bouquets & centerpieces at a Bridal Show

So the kicker is, Yelp! knows that some businesses try to game the system with fake reviews, and pull “suspicious reviews” – often 100% true, from happy customers.  To top it off there are “rumors” of  Yelp! sales people who offer to wipe out bad reviews or restore good ones with the purchase of advertising.  It’s gone as far as groups of small businesses suing the company for extortion. Patt Morrison, Southern California KPCC radio journalist, covered it on her call-in show, with this chat with Yelp! spokesman Vince Sollito. (Patt also has her own hot dog on the menu at Pink’s Hot Dogs.  Now that’s an accomplishment).

My Little Flower Shop needs your help on Yelp!  When you’re happy with our work, like we do your wedding or someone sends you flowers, please leave a genuine review for us.  We’ll hope that some of them stick!

Be well, and love well.

-Dinah

*we posted a version of this in 2011 – history repeats itsyelp.

A Wedding Reception That’s Just Desserts? Yes, Please!

A Dessert Party is a wonderful idea for an event whether it’s a shower, engagement or even a small wedding. (believe it or not, you don’t need sea bass or prime rib to have a great reception!)  A well styled buffet of elegant desserts can be a showstopper. You can go the DIY route, or find a local bakery (like Palm Springs’ own Pastry Swan) to take over. Either way, vary up your offerings – cakes, petits-fours, home-made cookies,

 

Petits Fours Français : Petits fours עברית: פט...

Live well, and love well

 

-Dinah