There were three boats Columbus sailed – and they roll off the tongue as a group. “The Nina, The Pinta, The Santa Maria.” We all know (or are part of) groups of girlfriends who are the same way.
So what happens when the trio is not kept whole in a wedding party? Everybody is wearing purple taffeta to the wedding except one gal, bless her heart. And she likely feels left out.
A lot of etiquette books will say be sensitive blah blah blah and give the non bridesmaid friend a job handing out wedding bubbles. So maybe the being sensitive part isn’t blah blah blah. But it is more specific to your friend – you have to treat these situations individually. Don’t just say “you’re really important to me” and shove a stack of programs in her hands. The best solution of all? Call us biased, but flowers speak volumes. Special friends not wearing “special” (and oh boy are some of them special) dresses are often thrilled to pieces to be honored with a corsage. Nothing says you’re in the in-crowd at a wedding like official flowers.
So, Nina, get the Santa Maria a wristlet. And keep sailing happily along.