Cutting to the chase, now that the angelic chorus has weighed in, The Best Wedding Advice Ever: Ask for help. Yes, it’s that simple. Ask for help.
There’s a false image in the bridal media of the “perfectly organized” bride. TV and magazines are full of brides with the color coded binders who’ve got everything mapped out down to the last rose petal. Then there are the articles about “easy breezy” brides for whom everything just drops into place – as if in a dream. Do we buy it? Bullfeathers.
We know the reality, weddings are hard work! And keeping a handle on all of it alone is harder still. If you don’t want to be made completely crazy by it all, Ask for Help. The beauty part is, everybody wants to help you. They tell you that too – but in your “I must be the uber-bride” mode you don’t even hear the magic words at the end of practically every conversation you have.
“Oh, let me know if there’s anything I can do to help with the wedding.”
With a knee jerk no, you could be brushing off a retired lighting designer, your aunt who’s taken up calligraphy, or even your best friend’s wife who planned events for a museum. Why miss out on a failsafe lighting company reference? or flawless placecards? Expert advice? Don’t send these people packing so you can keep up a facade of being in control.
To paraphrase Jerry Maguire, “Help them help you.” Be open to delegating which means letting go of that color coded binder. Well, opening it up at least. Take heart. You never know when Martha and the other magazines might decide real brides who work for their fairy tale deserve column ink too.
Wishing you creativity, patience and style!
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