Taking the words of wedding experts with a grain of salt is the only way to survive. That said, there are some great wedding planning books out there full of sage advice. This is probably my favorite.
Emily Post’s Etiquette 18th Edition
This classic guide includes not only information on weddings, but on a myriad of social situations. Useful for the basics while planning the wedding, afterwards this becomes an invaluable resource for drafting thank you notes, how to address letters to local officials, what to wear to religious celebrations…it’s an incredible resource for any couple. The Post grandchildren carry Emily’s flag into the digital era, including email and social media issues. A must have!