By their nature, most weddings (the exceptions being these excercises in opulent navel gazing and their brethren) are about celebrating the family. Yours, his, and the great big new one that just came together.
But making planning the event a family affair makes a lot of brides break out in hives. And it’s understandable. There are always enough opinions to go around, and when some of them come from people who drive you a little over the edge to begin with, things can get a little tense. How can’t however, shut everyone out, particularly if they are helping pay for your big day. Here are a few ways to integrate the bunch into your plans without going bananas.
- Supermodel, Work! Nothing makes female relatives feel more “in” on the process than a trip to the bridal salons to watch you do your best runway walk in gorgeous gowns. It doesn’t have to be “the” time you plan to buy, or even “the” store you plan to visit. Make an appointment, and try on a variety of shapes and styles. Even better, let each woman who’s with you pick a dress for you to try.
- Scavenger Hunt. Have you been looking for ¾ inch gold ribbon? Rhinestone swizzle sticks? Is Aunt Sue on your last nerve about how you’re not organized properly? Send her on a treasure hunt for those last items you need that are hard to find, or available only at that one store on the other side of town. She’ll feel useful, and you’ll get some peace and quiet.
- Keep the content current on BNN – The Bridal News Network. There are going to be people who you’re not in touch with daily who’ll want to feel like insiders. Whether it’s a weekly call to Grandma, or a blog for far-flung sorority sisters, make sure that those who want news get it.
Families go a little haywire when it comes to weddings. But they love you, and are only making you crazy because they want to share this special experience, too. Handle as you do all things you love – with care.
Care well, and love well.
- What’s a wedding for, anyway? These two have an interesting answer, bless their hearts. (mylittleflowershop.com)