My Little Etiquette Shop: Aunt Marge + signature cocktail + windy roads = Yikes!


Road safety may not be on your wedding planning radar, but is worth considering if you’ve chosen a remote reception site and a potent martini menu.  Read on.

Q:  Our reception is being held at a golf club on a cliff overlooking the Pacific.  The view is gorgeous but I’m worried about guests getting home on the narrow, windy roads having had a few drinks.  What can I do?

A:  “Brides don’t let guests drive drunk” doesn’t exactly roll off the tongue.  Which makes a good point: you shouldn’t be playing key-master at your own wedding.  Chances are there are at least three reliable people who’ve said recently “if there’s any wedding prep I can help with, please let me know.”  Ask sweetly if they will help watch for guests who shouldn’t be driving home the night of the wedding. Arm them with taxi vouchers, or small envelopes of cash so they can pop folks into cabs. You can also give your bartenders instructions to not serve people who are, for lack of a better term, totally wasted. In summary: as with many wedding worries, this one can be solved with one wonderful word.  Delegate!