When my voice broke while singing at my sister’s wedding, the guests saw a touching family moment. I thought, “Darn. Everything was perfect until I started crying.” I had a severe case of “the perfect wedding” syndrome. Here are some key concepts to keep in mind to avoid wedding planning perfectionism.
Absorb that society’s version of “the perfect wedding” is wrong
There is no wedding where everything is 100% perfect. Even the Royal Wedding had its own tulip tragedy. But if your goal is perfection, the planning never ends. There’s always one more detail. The stress and anxiety strains relationships, and precludes other happy memories being made.
Realize that you WILL Have a Perfect Wedding – because it’s yours.
As you experience the carnival ride that is your wedding day, (and as you look back on it) you’ll understand this: your wedding is perfect –every crazy moment. Because you married your true love. And that is perfection no ribbon can make more beautiful.
No two weddings are alike. One of the great joys of being a wedding vendor in Palm Springs, is that we see destination couples have beautiful, personal, perfect weddings almost every day of the week. Pinterest, BRIDES magazine and Martha Stewart don’t have exclusive rights.
As the guests trickled out of my sister’s reception, a woman put her hand on my arm. “That moment when you started crying- it made us all cry too. It was perfect.”
Live well, and love well.