Everybody says it, usually accompanied by an eye roll. “Wedding planning is so hard!” And it can see that way, when you avoid thinking outside your own bubble. I heard a tale today that put my problems into sharp focus: i.e. that they are about the size of a grain of rice in the grand scheme of things. Listen up – let’s all start throwing rice in happiness. Why wait for a ceremony?
So what’s the biggest problem people planning a wedding face? Lack of perspective. Today I had a conversation with a woman who grew up in rural Greece in the 1940s. She described growing up after losing both her parents caring for four siblings, without heat, indoor plumbing and so little money they couldn’t afford shoes. “I hear people complain about their shoes being the wrong color,” she said, “and I shake my head.” Honestly – this was a humbling conversation.
I did not dare explain the “problems” of helping people plan weddings. Discussing the fact that I wrote about wedding planning “problems” suddenly sounded incredibly shallow. Seriously? Bottom line we’re talking about happy people, in love, planning a celebration. When you’re having an issue, step back and think for a moment about the fact that you’re wearing shoes. And that you’ve been lucky enough to find an individual you want to marry. That’s pretty phenomenal.
Be well and love well.